Pre-Mr. October (The Setup)

Ok, so this story is too fun and serendipitous not to share. Last Saturday, a couple friends and I went out for some girl's night fun! While getting our groove on and listening the the bumpin' sounds of the 80's, I happened to catch the eye of 2 guys. They claimed to be brothers, however, I learned today that they aren't brothers but have grown up together and are close enough that they consider each other "like" brothers. Well, the younger one (35 y/o) was more my speed, even though they both are cute. I thought the younger one was into me but soon realized that the older one (39 y/o) was.  Well, us girls, being girls, had to go potty (in a group) and when we returned, I had lost track of said "brothers".

Fast forward to Sunday.... I took a leap of faith and posted an ad in the Missed Connections section of Craig's List thinking there's no way that those boys would think to check there, and I will never talk to them again. Well, low and behold, the younger "brother" saw my ad and responded. Turns out he's engaged but his "brother" is single. He passed my number to his "brother" and we talked on the phone, getting to know the basics of one another, for a little over an hour. He has 3 kids; ages 2 (girl), 6 (boy), and 10 (girl).  Their mom isn't in the picture- I didn't get into detail, that was enough information for me. He (and the kids) live in Glen Dirty, Oh, I mean Glen Burnie with his parents. He moved in with them a year or so ago to be closer to work and be around his kids more. He was living in PA and traveling all over MD for work so he was missing out on his kids.  He said he wants to see me again and suggested we go ice skating this weekend. He's going to look into the weather forecast and pick a suitable time! I'm way excited! I don't want to put the horse before the cart or is it the cart before the horse? Whichever is the one I don't want to do... must be cart before the horse because a horse generally goes before a cart to pull it...(You just got a glimpse into the workings of my brain) ok so, I don't want to put the cart before the horse, but I think this is going to be one of the best dates in a LONG while. Not saying this is a match made in heaven, nor am I thinking it will turn into something more long term/serious, but it's exciting and has a great story beginning! :) Let's see what happens! Stay tuned......  

The Final Installment of The Crazy Train!

Ok... so I'm leaving you with the last conversation that is/was between Mr. Crazy, oops, I mean Mr. September and I.  This is what I woke up to and is time stamped at 12:41 am. ENJOY! **Anything in parenthesis and caps are my thoughts only** The "u" and "cuz" and "ur" is direct spelling/quote from Crazy Ass! I may have changed some u's to you because it's hard for me not to correct things!**

Mr. Crazy September: Well I did my thinking and I guess I should thank you, I'm no longer going to act like I did... obviously people don't like the Scott they see cuz they think they know me and think I'm desperate or something...that's BS...I can show u it is....my demeanor from here on out will be different, so u don't have to try and like me...if you don't like who I am, ur not worth having...goodnight.  and even if it's a dream/joke, you asked me to go to Alaska with you (TOTALLY TAKEN OUT OF CONTEXT)... I could've taken that out of context and say your desperate and needy but nooooo, I look past that shit as, maybe she's just nice...if I do the same shit...I'm desperate and needy....ur a teacher and u say ur smart (UM CORRECTION: I KNOW I'M SMART!)...u need to show it by looking outside the box...u mistook my generosity as desperation and now, I will show you the other Scott...the one that is not so nice.  so ur off the hook since I make you uncomfortable....take care of urself and if u want to start fresh then i'm for it, if not then I will just be on my way but u are losing a great guy...bye.

Me: Now you're putting words in my mouth.  I never said you were needy or desperate and I never said you made me uncomfortable.  You said those things.  Perhaps those are your insecurities coming through.  Yes, Alaska was a joke.  I certainly can't pack up and move to Alaska right away nor with a stranger.  Anyway, guess we aren't going to see eye to eye.  Your reaction to my simple comment is a bit disturbing to me as well.  Sorry. I'm sure we will both find great matches but we are not one anothers'.  Take care.

MR. CS: Nope and just like the typical woman, u can't admit when ur wrong (UM, HOW AM I WRONG, EXACTLY?) and they are not insecurities...u said I WANT a relationship so bad (DID I SAY THIS? PRETTY SURE I HAVE NO IDEA WHAT HE'S TALKING ABOUT RIGHT NOW!)...come on teacher... that's saying I'm needy.  U women take what u want from something and leave the rest...and now u know why ur still alone...u wanna talk insecurities. I have trust issues (AMONGST OTHERS OBVIOUSLY!!!!)  wtf does it matter to you if I spend time at my brothers...don't you think that's non of your business since I never even got to know your last name (IF YOU'RE CONFUSED, SO AM I! HE NEVER ASKED MY LAST NAME) and you should be flattered (OH, PLEASE TELL ME WHY!!!!) a good looking guy like me took interest in you, ur far from a 10 (THAT'S RIGHT! I'M AT LEAST A 13!!!) and I will make this your warning (I'M FRIGHTENED AT THIS POINT! FRIGHTENED, I WILL PEE MY PANTS FROM LAUGHTER!)  don't contact me anymore.

Me:  LOL!!! Take care!

Mr. CS: Guess you don't take me for real (NOT WHEN YOU SAY "TAKE ME FOR REAL")...guess you will have to get a call from the cops...I don't think you know who you're dealing with (OH, I DO AND IT'S HYSTERICAL!) , so comment again and make it worse....

Me: I'm concerned about your mental health! Please take care of yourself! Bye. I surely will not be contacting you again.

Mr. CS: Good!

Mr. September Date Two....The Twilight Zone!!!!!

Ok, so, we met again at P.F. Chang's in Columbia since he was in the mood for it again. He also mentioned that we could go to the movies afterward and I went with the idea even though I knew I wasn't going to go to the movies. First, if you know me, I prefer to go to the movies solo. Plus, kind of silly to go to the movies on a date since you can't talk or get to know someone for 2 hours while you're in there! Movie dates are for established couples/relationships, not for dating. The first date, he paid and said "How about I pay this time and you can pay next date". Well, if he was SMART (pay attention single guys) he would have offered to pay this time too! He would have earned some brownie points! He's trying to "catch" me, not the other way around! So anyway, we ate and then went for a walk around the mall. It was like Groundhog's Day! EXCEPT, this time, he kept saying things that seemed like he was scoping out presents for Christmas. There were some boots I saw and liked but I told him I wasn't paying the price. He said he would chip in 20 bucks towards them (WHY DIDN'T HE PAY FOR LUNCH DATE?) and I declined. I just thought that was too forward for date number two. He also kept making comments about taking me different places and traveling here and there which is fine and all. I mean I wouldn't mind someone to do things with and travel with but he seemed like he was already naming our children and Golden Retriever! He also has an annoying laugh. I know, I know... sounds petty...well think Janice from Friends but a little deeper due to it being a male laugh. That's it! He also talks NON STOP, to anyone within ear shot and makes stupid "jokes" that aren't that funny...more annoying. He's like one of those old guys that make jokes to try to fit in with younger people but yet, it just comes across as trying too hard. I looked past these last few qualities on date one as to not be labeled petty, or any other name by anyone reading these blogs. However, I'm not sure I can deal with it on a long term basis. He also asked if he could "friend me" on FB. I didn't want to tell him that I might be bashing him later today and he might cry himself to sleep once he read it, so I told a white lie and said that I only add friends if we are friends and nothing more. I don't add my "dates".  He said he understood and he just wanted to add me to show that he isn't hiding anything... well, you can hide a lot on FB! Public Records on the other hand.... been there, checked that!

Twilight Zone Time
When I got home, he texted me to tell me he was home and I told him that at the moment I was just feeling the friend vibe but that's not to say that things won't develop to more over time. He responded with some whoa is me crap and I quote: "Oh, friend vibe huh... I get that a lot... and it is very frustrating for me... makes me not wanna be nice cuz I always finish last...I'm not saying that mainly directed at u, I just get sick of hearing that... it's cool tho. Going out...I ttyl...thanks for a fun day. And I'm not mad hun.  I just get frustrated cuz being nice and gentlemanly, equals friends these days...it used to mean someone is into u cuz he respects u and doesn't want to stick his tounge down ur throat and hand down ur pants on the first date...trying to figure out what these sparks are everyone is talking about ...anyways, just wanted to explain why I'm feeling the way I am...every time I think someone likes me, I hear that friend shit...now I did see that ur open to it possibly being more and I'm thankful for that...I will be back in a while. TTYL."

So to that, I responded with: " A relationship doesn't happen overnight.  You seem to want it to magically happen and rush into it or force it instead of letting things progress.  I was turned off by all the "presents talk" and xmas gifts and offering to pay for part of shoes.  I mean two dates and you're talking presents for holidays... Just a bit much for me so I figured I would let you know where my head's at because I know yours is somewhere else and didn't want to lead you on.  Like I said, relationships can't be forced and don't happen overnight.  I enjoy your company. Just willing to see where it goes gradually. "

And to that he responds with: " No and I'm cool with that but what u don't know about me, is I would buy anyone gifts. (THEN WHY DIDN'T YOU PAY FOR LUNCH, FOOL????).  It's just who I am... I like to make people smile and don't expect things in return... u thought it was me rushing u, when it turns out it's just who I am and when I like and am attracted to someone, I wanna make her happy.  Instead I made u uncomfortable... u have totally misunderstood me cuz u thought u know what goes on in my head...well ya didn't but that's why i'm telling you now....i'm sorry I offended u and u took it the wrong way."

WHAT??? Where do I go from here? I told him to have fun doing whatever it is he's doing. He said " I'm just taking a walk by the creek downtown.  Just some thinking time that's all... I still like u, u just deserved an explanation cuz I felt u totally don't get who I am...no one seems to...be gone just a bit. TTYL."  He claims to know me after two dates! He says, even on date one, things like  "Oh, I know you would like such and such movie." or "Oh, you would love Frederick. It's quiet and peaceful." Clearly he doesn't know me because I'm much more into urban areas. Hell,  NYC is my favorite place ever!  Frederick is nice to visit, but I don't think I could live there! So he doesn't know me but he gets his panties in a wad when I don't get him? Hmmm...... I think I might have to move on!

Apparently, he bought me a gallon of honey from his friend that owns a bee farm.  I told him on date one that I like honey or something came up about me eating honey and he mentioned that his friend has a bee farm and sells his honey.  Well today he told me he bought me a gallon and it cost him 35 bucks. (THANKS FOR THROWING IN THE PRICE, KEEP IT CLASSY!).  He just has to pick it up. Part of me wants to keep him around until I get this honey gallon! :) I guess we shall see what happens.... I hope there's no bridges on this walk that he's taking downtown! :/ I guess I'm just that awesome and lovable! (Modest too!)

Mr. September

ALRIGHT! Finally a great prospect for long term potential!

     First, some deets on the man before deets on the date.  Mr. September lives in Frederick (Yeah, I know!), he's 40 y/o, no kids, lives alone, and owns his own landscaping company.  He is the youngest of 4 boys. The 2 oldest brothers died a few years back from 2 separate medical conditions, 19 days apart from one another.  His mom died a while back, as well, in a car accident. His immediate older brother lives in Walkersville (I think that's the name), near him in Frederick and they aren't close but don't hate one another. His brother works for the DOD and is too "stiff" and "corporate" all the time.  His dad lives in Florida with his new wife (Mr. September refers to her as his stepmom) and they are close. His dad is near 80 y/o and his wife is 20 years younger.  Ladies man, apparently! Mr. September is 5'6" which is nice considering I'm 4'9". He also has capillary veins on the end of his nose which he is having surgery for the beginning of Dec. to have them removed. He says he is self conscious about his nose, so I thought it was very brave of him to meet me prior to his laser surgery. I figured most people who are insecure about something and have a plan to correct an issue would put off meeting anyone new until they felt more confident. I was impressed by that prior to meeting.
     Since he lives out in BFE, we (and by that I mean I) decided to meet in Columbia at P.F.Changs (their banana spring rolls are so yummer)! He was already there because he chose to leave his place 2 hours before meet up time not knowing how Rt 70 would be! I told him he'd be there at least an hour early... I was right! He was waiting in the lobby area and I was greeted with a nice hug. I'm not a hugger (shocking I know!) but I didn't hate it! I knew there was something worthwhile at that moment because I didn't want to vomit, push him away in disgust or avoid him like the plague due to his hugging personality! Trust me, I come across a hugger almost daily at work, and I do my best to avoid her like she's got a highly transmittable, epidemic causing disease.  So this is a huge milestone at this point! Anyway, moving on... conversation was easy and he was impressed with my intellect. Even one of the bus guys (he wasn't a boy- hence I can't use "bus boy") came over to comment on something I said that he overheard. I felt like the Einstein of P.F. Changs! These guys need to get out more or raise their standards if I'm impressive enough for a random employee to jump into a conversation! Flattering nonetheless. I think I'm a genius, it's nice when other people recognize this fact as well.  So we ate, chatted, and then when it was time to go he offered to help me with my coat which was nice! He didn't just grab it and help me put it on and I'm glad because I would have hated that... however, it was a nice gesture to point out that he was willing.  Very chivalrous this Mr. September is. He opens doors too! As we were leaving, I told him I was going to head over to the mall for some coffee or just to walk since it's been a while since I've been there. He asked if I wanted company  and I told him If he doesn't have to be anywhere then he is more than welcome to join me, AND I was actually honest about that comment! (I know, another shocker!).  So we went to the mall, the line for starbucks was long and me being me, was too impatient to wait in line. We walked around the mall and  I ended up getting tea at Panera where I was the only one in line! We then went into this way fun store that's called Marbles. It has tons of logic puzzles and brainy games. The first thing I picked up was this ball thing that had a lot of magnetic pieces all put together to create a ball. Well just one of those pieces was missing and I had no idea what it was suppose to do. I chose to squeeze it and apparently that's the wrong thing to do. When you do this, a bunch of pieces shoot off in a million directions! But I love this store because instead of getting dirty looks, the woman cheered me and clapped! :) I like that! Mr. September picked up all the pieces for me! I like that, too! I mentioned that we should have gone into that store before getting tea because I had to keep putting my cup down prior to playing with things. He said he would carry my cup and I let him! I then got to play with a spinny helicopter thing that I got to fling all over the store! A guy employee was watching me and Mr. September said something along the lines of "she is going to make a mess wherever she goes".  The employee said, "It's ok. We encourage hands on playing in here." Well, that's all I needed to hear! I was into EVERYTHING! A blue playing piece went wizzing by my head, and it wasn't from me. Apparently, I'm not the only one that makes messes in stores because a guy in his 20's apologized and went to pick up the piece! Very fun! We left out of there and walked back toward the exit. He walked me to my car and gave me another enjoyable hug before walking to his car. He also told me to let him know when I got home so he knows I made it. Now, I say this to my friends and they don't appreciate the fact that I worry about them nor do they ever say this to me. I appreciate the fact that he is concerned for my safety and well being. As I was pulling out of my space, I thought it might have been nice of me to offer to drive him to his car, but I couldn't find him. He had already escaped down the stairwell. I texted him when I got home, actually about 45 minutes later because, me being me, I forgot. He said he was home too and thanks for an amazing afternoon. I told him I was already looking forward to our next date. He said he was too.
     Then about 8:00 tonight he asked if I wanted to go to the Raven game tomorrow. I don't like the Ravens but I do like him, so I'm trying to get my butt load of papers graded tonight so I can enjoy my day tomorrow without grades/papers looming in the back of my mind. I'll post a second date blog tomorrow after returning from the game.